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KonMari

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Have y’all ever heard of the KonMari method? I joined a facebook group a while ago, and decided I’m going to start organizing using the KonMari to purge all of the random “stuff” I have.

Instead of focusing on different rooms, you work through different categories to get organized. The biggest one for me is going to be my emails. I have over 36,000 unread emails.

The point is to go through each category and to purge the things that don’t spark a feeling of joy.

Marie Kondo has a new show debuting on Netflix today, and I’m excited to watch it.

 

What things are you looking to accomplish this year?

❤ Bekah

Reflection

This year I…

It’s the last day of 2018 and time for reflection.

I saw Kaylah’s “This year I…” series on The Dainty Squid, and I thought this was the perfect year for me to start it.

 

This year I…

 

did a lot of hair in my salon studio

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got my color wheel tattootattoo

moved to Cleveland, OH

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found a salon family that I love

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began Bible journaling and painting in my Bible

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found my tribe ❤

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hosted Friendsmas

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got to spend a lot of time with my family

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and probably the most important of all, I experienced a lot of personal growth.

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2018 has been a really tough year, but it has brought so much joy and good. Something inside me has changed this year. It feels like my heart’s been reawakened, and I’m stepping into who I was called to be. God is so faithful, y’all!

2019 is going to be the best year yet!

❤ Bekah

Halloween, Spirit Week

Halloween Spirit Week Ideas

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Every year at the one of the salon where I worked, we had Halloween Spirit Week. Instead of only dressing up on Halloween, we have a whole week with different themes to dress up. It’s so much fun, and I wanted to bring Spirit Week to the new salon. We created a list of ideas for each day and voted for our favorites. I’ll be sharing pictures soon with all of our costumes and decorations I created.

For now, I wanted to share the list of ideas, so you can have your own spirit week too:

  1. Dress Like Your Boss Day
  2. Camo Day
  3. Mime Day
  4. Disney Day
  5. Farm Day
  6. Steampunk Day
  7. Pirate Day
  8. Superhero/ Villains Day
  9. Mythical Creatures Day
  10. ‘Merica Day
  11. Tropical Day
  12. Rockstar Day
  13. Historical Figures Day
  14. Literary Character Day
  15. Harry Potter Day
  16. Decades Day
  17. Crazy Hair Day
  18. PacMan Day
  19. Zombie Day
  20. Halloween Colors Day
  21. Star Wars Day
  22. Sports Team Day
  23. International Day
  24. Cowboys and Indians Day
  25. Nerd Day

I’m not going to tell you the ones we picked for this year just yet. I’ll let the pictures speak for themselves. 😉

Have a beautiful weekend, friends!

Real Talk

Real Talk// Singleness

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I shared a meme on facebook the other day about being single because I’m a superhero. It made me laugh, but then I began thinking about singleness.

Why am I still single? I’ve been asked that question plenty of times. The tone of that question implies that I don’t measure up based on my relationship status. My initial reaction to that question is pure frustration. I had the hardest time with turning 30 and being single. Not only do I have to push back against societal standards of my age, now I have to push back against friends’ and family’s expectations. Please stop asking your single friends or family members why they are still single. Even though I know it’s not meant that way, it feels like I’m not accepted because I’m still single.

Once I move past the initial frustration, I can be a little more introspective.

Why am I still single?

The simple answer is that I haven’t found the right person.

While that’s completely true, there’s way more to it than that. Y’all, I suck at relationships. I’ve dated some great guys, and I’ve dated some not so great guys. Even the great guys weren’t great for me. My picker is broken.

I’ve been in relationship after relationship that left me empty and broken. I was chasing after love and gave everything away to try to secure that love in my life. I was left with tarnished credit, a pile of debt, feelings of inadequacy, a used body, and a broken heart.

The definition of insanity is continuing to do the same things and expecting different results. Y’all, I continued pursuing love in the same way expecting to find this great guy to spend the rest of my life with. Instead, my heart became more and more broken, my body more and more used, and my debt larger and larger. I forgot who I was and whose I was.

Y’all, I was searching for love that couldn’t be found in another person. I was searching for healing that couldn’t come from another person.

I couldn’t continue doing things the same way and expect a change. If I wanted true love and healing, I had to go to the source of love and healing. Y’all, I remembered who I am and whose I am. I am a child of the most high God who loves unconditionally and was waiting to heal my brokenness. And so are you.

Why am I still single?

Because I realize that I can’t have a great relationship apart from God. I’ve done things my way, and I have been left broken and empty. This time, I’m doing it God’s way.

I’m single because I’m waiting on God. I would rather be single than be in a mediocre relationship. God has something incredible for me, if I’m willing to wait on Him. He has something incredible for you too, if you are willing to wait on Him.

❤ Bekah

Real Talk

Real Talk // I’m 1 in 10

Y’all. This is going to be one of the hardest posts I’ve ever written to publish. I’m going to be very vulnerable and share part of my story with you. I write this hoping it brings awareness and also encouragement and support to those who have shared a similar experience. Here goes:

I am 1 in 10.

Did you know that 1 in 10 children will be sexually abused before age 18?

At age 11, I was sexually abused by a family member. I am 1 in 10.

Experiencing sexual abuse, especially as a child, changes you. You feel ashamed and utterly alone. I thought it was my fault, and I didn’t want anyone to know. I buried that as deep as I could, and I tried to forget it.

A couple years later, my mom had a conversation with me on what I should do if someone tried to touch me inappropriately. You think that I would have opened up to her right then and there, right? Wrong. I struggled with that shame for 7 long years.

Finally, at 18, I spoke up. I read an article about a girl who had been sexually abused by a family member, and I began sobbing. I started to realize that I was not alone. I started to realize that it was never my fault. I finally told my parents. It was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders; I no longer had to carry that secret around.

I just want to tell you right now- If you have been sexually abused, it is not your fault. Did you hear me? It is NOT your fault. Do not keep that buried inside. Let that shame go. It is NOT your fault.

Being sexually abused changes you- mentally and emotionally. And although you may be able to sympathize, you really won’t understand how much it changes you unless you’ve experienced it yourself. If you’re reading this and you don’t feel like anyone will understand, feel free to message me: Bekahnomics@gmail[dot]com .

I feel like recovering from an experience like this is a process. There were so many false beliefs in my head that I had written on my heart that had to be corrected. It’s a process.

The devil uses experiences like this to feed lies to us; he wants us isolated and ashamed. He wants us to feel so alone and at fault. John 10:10 tell us “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy…” He comes to steal our joy, our happiness, our lives. He wants to destroy us by whatever means possible.

If you continue reading the rest of the verse, Jesus says “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Y’all. There is healing from sexual abuse. There is joy and happiness and a full life.

I’m going to be writing another post about the aftermath of sexual abuse, and what this process of walking through healing has looked like for me. I’ll cross link both posts.

Please reach out to someone if you’re keeping that buried inside. There is life and joy and happiness.

❤ Bekah

Real Talk

Real Talk// Pursue your Happy

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I shared a little last week about how I was running on fumes: exhausted, burnt out, and apathetic.

There are only a few times I’ve ever been apathetic in life: when I was either feeling burnt out or my self esteem was in the toilets, or maybe a little of both.

I realize now that I was so concerned with busting my butt to make my business successful that I forgot to take care of me and what was good for my heart.

The other day, I downloaded a karaoke app on my phone and spent hours just singing along to songs on my phone. I forgot how much joy singing brings to me. Y’all, my heart was so full.

You’ve been given passions for a reason. Do more of what brings you joy every day. ❤️ if you’re at a point of exhaustion and burn out, go pursue those things that inspire you and make you feel passionate again.

❤ Bekah

Beauty School

7 More Things They Didn’t Tell You About Beauty School

A little while ago, I wrote a post about 7 things they didn’t tell you about beauty school. Here’s the original post. Then, I realized I had a few more that were left off that list. So here are 7 more things they didn’t tell you about beauty school.

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1. The color wheel is your best friend. When you are working with hair color, keep a picture of the color wheel close to you. (I have a tattoo on my arm.) The color wheel will answer a lot of your questions if you know how to use it.

2. You will question this career choice. You will have bad days. You will have days that make you question whether or not you should quit. You will have days you just can’t seem to do anything right. Keep going. The days that reassure you chose the right career will outnumber the others.

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3. Take every opportunity given to you. You have an opportunity to go to a class and further your education in beauty school? Take it. It will only add to your growth during beauty school.

4. It’s not for everyone. Beauty school and this industry are not for everyone. It’s ok to admit that you bit off more than you can chew. It’s ok to realize that beauty school just isn’t for you. It’s not easy, and this career isn’t easy either. The number of people that will continue in this career long-term is few. You have to have a true passion and be willing to make some sacrifices to be successful in this industry. It’s perfectly ok if you don’t want to make those sacrifices. It’s ok if you no longer have the passion for it like you thought you did. ****Don’t confuse loss of passion with feeling burnt out though!**** (We can talk about that on another blog post.)

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5. Find a mentor. See the girl in that picture pointing at me? That’s one of the most incredible women. She’s my mentor. Most of the things I know about hair I learned from her. When I’m struggling to figure out a formula or a placement, I send her a text and she talks me through it. When I want an honest critique, I send her a picture. She’s my cheerleader through good days and bad days. There are so many amazing people in this industry that are happy to share their wealth of knowledge if you’re willing to ask.

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6. Embrace the moment. One of my biggest achievements was graduating beauty school. I never graduated from a traditional school, and beauty school took me giving everything I had to complete. Live in that moment of you did it for a little while!

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7. Go get that license. Don’t take too long trying to pass state boards. You’ll forget more putting it off trying to give yourself extra time to study. It took me 3 1/2 weeks from my graduation date to actually be able to take state boards.